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Marriage; the Oxford dictionary defines it as ‘the legally or formally recognized union of a man and a woman (or, in some jurisdictions, two people of the same sex) as partners in a relationship’. But each and every one of us has a different outlook on marriage.

Coming from India, tradition tells us we should marry through the method of arranged marriage, where a man and a woman (because being homosexual in India is a crime, and even if the courts don’t convict you, your relatives, friends, neighbours and strangers definitely will) are introduced to each other through their families, rather than having already been in a relationship before marriage.

Dating in India even today is looked down upon. We are of the belief that women should be ‘pure’ while men can sleep in the beds of countless women and still demand a virgin wife. Marriage should not be something that is forced upon an individual simply because they are of age. Every individual must have their own opinion, and should be free to marry whenever and whoever they wish to, granted that their partner wants the same.

Sex, ironically, is the haute taboo topic, even though India is the second most populated country in the world. The problem is this; in India, men and women marry not because they want to get married, but because they face pressure from their families to get married, make babies and continue the bloodline (because most families in India would rather disown their daughters and sons than accept the fact that they had children out of wedlock).

Marriage is a sacred union of two souls. It’s not just a legally or formally recognized union of a man and woman. Marriage is accepting that you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, and stay with them no matter how bad the situation gets. The Indian society considers marriage as the preliminary step to simply getting children and grandchildren, nephews and nieces and basically undermines the whole sanctity of marriage.

All I’m saying is this:

Dear Indian Society,

Those who want to get married through the traditional method of arranged marriage are free to do so. But please don’t harass, disown, look down upon, or kill those of us who want to get married to someone we actually love. Please don’t force us to get married for the sake of having sex. Marriage is sometimes more sacred than sex, and leave the decision of choosing between the two to the individual himself/herself. Moreover, homosexual couples will tend to adopt the lakhs of children that are orphaned, or left in care shelters. Who are we to interfere in the lives of two people that are in love, and are willing to take the same oaths a man and woman getting married would take? If we as a society can accept the things we once looked down upon earlier, like technology, Western clothing and ways of thinking and even the role of women, why can’t we accept this?

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